This is much more than a question that usually partners ask each other. It contains the KEY principles of a Healthy Relationship.
Dr Johnson is the creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, and she has found that there are 3 key factors that must be present in a healthy relationship in order to answer that question affirmatively.
Using the acronym A.R.E. she explains the 3 key factors: Accessibility, Responsiveness and Emotional Engagement.
People need to feel as if their partner is accessible to them, and their partner should be accessible. You can increase your accessibility by just listening and validating how your partner feels.
If your partner comes to you and you are actually unavailable because you are doing something else, let them know and reassure them that their concerns are important to you. Find a later time that you can come together to discuss the issue and actually honour that commitment.
It is not only important to care about your partner’s emotional experience and be curious about it, but you should also let them know. The more emotionally engaged partners are with each other, the stronger their bond. Self-Reflection: A.R.E. you there for your partner?