There is a wide-range of toxic communication but sarcasm is one of the most common insidious forms that can really affect your relationship with your partner.
Both, healthy and unhealthy communication patterns are behaviours that we learn through life and impact us on many levels. Some people find sarcasm as an acceptable way of communication because they have been ‘train’ to communicate like this in their environment.
They are easy to identify for their teasing ‘jokes’ and mocking comments that are part of their bread & butter. They have become numb to its damaging effects. They usually defend themselves using phrases like ‘You’re too sensitive’ or ‘What’s wrong with you…you can’t take a joke?’. Unfortunately, they don’t realise that they have become accustomed to insults and sarcastic ‘jokes’, that even if they seem to be funny in the moment, come at the expense of your partner.
It makes perfect sense, then, that the use of sarcasm prevents true intimacy. In essence, sarcasm is a highly toxic form of verbal aggression that should be avoided at all cost, especially if you want to nurture your romantic relationship.
By replacing harmful communication practices with kind and affectionate messages your relationship will become a place of sweet interplay and safety.
Here are some strategies to avoid sarcastic communication in your relationship:
- 𝐀𝐂𝐊𝐍𝐎𝐖𝐋𝐄𝐃𝐆𝐄 𝐓𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐒𝐀𝐑𝐂𝐀𝐒𝐌 𝐈𝐒 𝐓𝐎𝐗𝐈𝐂
- 𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐑𝐍 𝐓𝐎 𝐊𝐍𝐎𝐖 𝐖𝐇𝐄𝐍 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐁𝐄𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐒𝐀𝐑𝐂𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐂
- 𝐓𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐑𝐄𝐒𝐏𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐈𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐈𝐓𝐘 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐍𝐄𝐆𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒
- 𝐂𝐎𝐔𝐍𝐓 𝐓𝐎 𝟏𝟎 𝐀𝐒 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐑𝐍 𝐓𝐎 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐑𝐎𝐋 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 ‘𝐀𝐔𝐓𝐎𝐌𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐂 𝐑𝐄𝐒𝐏𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐄’ 𝐑𝐎𝐔𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐄
- 𝐖𝐀𝐈𝐓 𝐈𝐍 𝐒𝐈𝐋𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐔𝐍𝐓𝐈𝐋 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐅𝐈𝐍𝐃 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐑𝐎𝐏𝐈𝐀𝐓𝐄 𝐖𝐎𝐑𝐃𝐒
- 𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐎𝐖 𝐊𝐈𝐍𝐃𝐍𝐄𝐒𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐑𝐄𝐏𝐋𝐀𝐂𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐌𝐄𝐑 ‘𝐏𝐔𝐒𝐇-𝐀𝐖𝐀𝐘- 𝐁𝐄𝐇𝐀𝐕𝐈𝐎𝐔𝐑
- 𝐀𝐒𝐊 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐏𝐎𝐒𝐈𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐅𝐄𝐄𝐁𝐀𝐂𝐊 𝐅𝐑𝐎𝐌 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐏𝐀𝐑𝐓𝐍𝐄𝐑 𝐀𝐒 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐒𝐓𝐑𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐓𝐎 𝐂𝐇𝐀𝐍𝐆𝐄
- 𝐁𝐄 𝐏𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐓 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅 – 𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐑𝐍𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐀 𝐍𝐄𝐖 𝐁𝐄𝐇𝐀𝐕𝐈𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐓𝐀𝐊𝐄𝐒 𝐓𝐈𝐌𝐄
Self-Reflection: Can you identify any kind of toxicity in the way you interact with your partner?