Many people often enter into a romantic relationship just to avoid being alone. This is clearly a recipe for disaster because usually, they lose themselves trying to please another person just to maintain the relationship and that is far from an Interdependent Relationship.
Sharon Martin is a Licensed Psychotherapist who suggests it is very important to keep being who you are, maintain your values and that sense of self when being involved in a romantic relationship. That is the best definition of an ‘Interdependent Relationship’. She recommends the following ways to maintain a sense of self in a relationship:
Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship?
Knowing what you like and what matters to you
Not being afraid to ask for what you want
Spend time with friends and family
Continue pursuing your personal goals
Be mindful of your values
Make time for hobbies and interests
Don’t be afraid to say “no”
Don’t keep yourself small or hidden to please others Of course, the above should be applied to both parties in the relationship. You will ensure that your partner also has the opportunity to be himself/herself when he/she is with you.